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| I've been thinking a lot about what I was doing this time last year.I was helping my youngest sister to care for our sister Betty.Betty Jean was what so many in our family called her.She had firey red hair when she was young and big beautiful green eyes that had faded a bit thoughout her life.Betty was 20 years older than me although to me there was no age difference at all.Betty was fun loving, full of laughter, and never grew old.She was timeless.A beauty in all definitions of the word.She had a heart of pure gold so her beauty was not only on the outside but inside as well.In one of my other blogs I spoke of my sister who bought my dad his very first car.This was just a small sampling of who my sister Betty was, she was a giver, a giver of things, love, of herself and of laughter.She could enter any room at any given time and light up everything.She was like Christmas.She was joy.Betty had cancer.We, (my sister Debbie, Betty, and myself) found out in Jan. of 06.Betty had been loosing weight and not looking well at all.My sister Debbie worked for Betty's doctor so she was actually the first to know.Betty had melanoma cancer that had spread from a tiny pin-head size of melanoma she had removed 3 years prior.She was told "they got it all."Appartantly, they did not.One cell is all that is needed for it to spread.By last January when Betty found out she had the cancer it had literally spread into every organ in her body.Their was no hope at all. |
| Their was no hope at all.Chemo was not even an option although we never told Betty.She thought she made the desision not to have chemo.She had no inking that the desision had been made by her doctors.Betty was a widow and the only sibling of mine not to have children.So she was alone.Debbie and I were totally devastated over Betty's illness and the fact we were going to lose our sister who we loved so dearly.We moved Betty in at my sister Debbie's house at the end.The end.It came so fast.She was only there for 2 weeks before the cancer took her away from us.I cannot begin to tell anyone how hard it was to let her go but at the same time how we knew when she died that she would no longer suffer.She was drugged very heavily in those last two weeks due to the intolerable pain.The hospice nurses all told us she most likely would not make it till the following Monday on the Friday before she died.She had not?been concious for a few days except just a few minutes when she called out for our mother.I saw her the last time on Sat.before she died on Sunday.I tiptoed into her room and knelt down to just look at her and pray.She opened her eyes much to my amazement and I said "Good Morning sweet Betty" she answered me with a weak 'good morning' and I cried silent tears and held her hand.I miss her so much.Tell the ones you love good morning every chance you get and that you love them.I wish I still could tell Betty Jean.Betty Jean Barnett Kemp died on April 30, 2006 a victim of maliginant melanoma |
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Last Updated ( Thursday, 17 July 2008 )
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